Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Calm Waters

After multiple tests, pneumonia, a hospital stay and 3 specialist appointments after the hospitalization, two more specialists' appointments are coming up this week.  H feels better and actually slept through the night last night for the first time for many, many months.  A benign tumor was located on his parathyroid and a decision about surgery will be made soon. 

Several months ago, one of the doctors referred to H as being a very sick man.  I had not even thought of that until she said it.  I think I was in denial which continued for a while after her description of H.  Now I have accepted it. I am now in the position of being married to a man who is chronically ill.  

2 comments:

  1. Its one of the most difficult things to realize -- a real chronic illness that impacts both of you

    he will be sick forever!
    you will be taking care of him forever!

    the alternative?
    you will be alone
    sometimes that sounds better
    other times that sounds awful

    there is not good alternative

    best wishes

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  2. tomswife, you summed it up so well when you said "he will be sick forever!
    you will be taking care of him forever!"

    As long as he is kind and calm, this will be my choice. That is what a loving marriage is all about.

    What worries me is the possibility of the raging returning with a vengeance. Right now, the doctors seem to have helped a lot. Let's hope that continues.

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